tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1177347668382046150.post5359217574064468880..comments2019-08-30T03:49:58.731-07:00Comments on FidgetFace: Is an advocacy-less existence a meaningless existence?cdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00406284020390728464noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1177347668382046150.post-29450565897272107802010-09-29T16:39:57.307-07:002010-09-29T16:39:57.307-07:00OK, I should probably get my own blog, but here...OK, I should probably get my own blog, but here's my response to you.<br /><br />Is an advocacy-less existence a meaningless existence? I say, without reservation, NO.<br /><br />It's not that I don't care about the multitude of issues facing mothers, especially working mothers. I just made the concious choice to clear space in my head to be Alex's mom and provider. That doesn't mean I can't have a yard sign or donate wine for a candidate event I support. I can also raise a civic-minded child who cares about his community. That's pretty big. And who's to say I can't re-engage when my kids are less dependent on me? I don't see anything wrong with pressing the "pause" button for a few years. <br /><br />Yes, there are women who do it all. Fantastic. I'm not going to feel guilty for watching "Dancing with the Stars" instead of phone banking. (in fact, the quickest way to piss me off is to phone bank me during DWTS) In my life, I've probably put in more volunteer time than most of the population. <br /><br />It's nice to just reload once in awhile (to steal a metaphor from Queen Mama Grizzly). It may feel that the world and issues are passing you by, but guess what, I have a walking, talking, bundle of boy that was a month and a half out of the NICU a year ago. THAT is more important to me and that shit moves fast (metaphorically and literally). <br /><br />So I'm ok with being a mom, wife, provider, and tv addict; whose main contact with friends is through email (because they're really busy moms too!). I'm not perfect, but I'm functional. It was hard to accept, being the classic oldest child-overachiever, but I did. And sometimes I feel like I'm not nearly doing enough in Alex's development, my community, my relationships... but you find ways to muddle through.<br /><br />OK, I'm done now. Actually, no - let's grab a glass of wine sometime, please?Angelicanoreply@blogger.com